Getting on With Life: What’s the Big Puzzle?

Sep

Anthologies | adulthood, Change, Control, Faith, Measure

We are all given the tools to equip our lives with acceptance, the necessary seeds of change. We detest change. Like a fish monger, we scale away the samples that come our way and in the end throw down any element we deem unsuitable. In essence, we are fearful of what life is about to offer. Otherwise wouldn’t you see the idea through to fruition vs. suffer indifferently?

Of course you would. That is exactly why some will tune out to the underlying message in this article. You believe change is something you can control, measure or alter. Thus you equate control to accountability vs. accepting change as a continual leap of faith. You are only accountable to see beyond your current choice when you move past the idea that change is something you can control. You cannot control what you cannot see, in as much as you cannot start to change if you aren’t willing to appreciate that the finish line is unknown and perhaps unfinished.

The only method to measure change is to put down the idea you even need to. It is the constant in life as the seasons are to earth. Many of us gravitate to one season or another. Some of you wish for a perennial summer, an everlasting beauty. In the end natural beauty is negated by its continual presence; another lawn to cut, another garden to weed and so on. Even within one season change is unstoppable. You see a flower that was there yesterday and hope it remains ever so. Soon enough you might well as see no such beauty.

Change also affects our youth who adversely wish to remain 18 years of age, the perfect blend of irresponsibility on the cusp of adulthood. Not a care in the world. Change arrives for a youthful outlook at any age. Every time we see someone change it is a reflection, nothing more. It’s a revelation to some. A neighbour moves away, a lasting friendship is distanced by an ocean. Change in the lives of others is a reflection because humans measure everything and ask it to relate to their own tiny little world. “I wouldn’t have done it that way, or said that or move there”. Good thing, it wasn’t your decision or your path; else you’d be faced with that decision, wouldn’t you!

Every time you measure someone else’s words, behaviours or antics, no matter how insignificant or extreme they may be you measure yourself. You enter the box. You can’t fathom how they arrived at that choice or decision. How irresponsibly to your own spirit. You decide to measure just the same. Why is that? Stop measuring and start resuscitating your own idea of what and where you need to be at this moment. If you measure you hinder your own growth. If you control change there is no change, there is a supplication to finding a foregone conclusion, the one your ego asked for all along. In other words “give me the shroud of change without the adventure or daring deflation of ego to move through what I need to see”.

Strong words aren’t they. Perhaps you should whittle down your own thoughts on the subject. Ask yourself what was the last major change you went through this past 3 or 4 months. Was there any at all? If you measure major change as geographic, financial or physical these are good starting points, but only a start. When your spirit asks you to think of major change, it asks you to reference an ideal or situation that you have been clinging to and never let go of. How do you know you were asked to let it go? You were asked by the number of walls that appeared before you. You were asked by the depletion of your energy and of those around you in your very wake. If you carry less energy you resist change, it’s really quite that simple. Physical energy manifests through emotional, spatial and spiritual auras that surround you. When you fully relinquish control and stop measuring change you put down the sword and stop fighting. If your body is too tired to fight, then you waited far too long. If your body is energized you managed to stop counting the cost, and assuredly there is much silent applause.

When we seem puzzled about life we seem to accept confusion. This is a wonderful starting point to appreciate the art of change. It is confusing, it’s the greatest test of your ability to relinquish ego and trust your heart, even in matters of finance. Without ego life will still have cycles, there is no guarantee it wouldn’t. The only difference is whether or not we wish to equip ourselves to ride out the storms knowing we can see through them, or we wind around them hoping we can manage on our own accord.