Is Growing Together Your Common Cause?

Oct

Impromptu Letters | common ground, compatibility, courage, religious belief

It is an act of faith when and where you decide to grow with a significant other, not a religious belief, nor a preconceived notion that love will carry you through life. “If my love was strong enough it would carry us through anything”. Some say this without knowing that love cannot enact upon itself without an act of faith. Love encompasses not knowing what life will hand you, which in itself defines how you decide to grow. If love knows no bounds then it would stand that you act upon faith not knowing those bounds.

If you don’t know where you are headed, then ask. That is what common ground or a common cause asks us to do. It gives rhyme to reason. It helps settle the score on the unanswered questions by asking them in the manner in which they arise. If you do not ask where you are headed, what then do you have in common? If you are afraid to speak the words “I’m worried” then only real worry is whether or not the desired response moves in your favour. Stop worrying about the outcome. Start enacting with the courage to move through life without the need to ascertain results, however unknown.

You cannot be afraid to speak your concerns, doubts, fears or troubles unless you wish to move separately. Fear does not move in step with another who repeatedly asks out of concern for your well being. This is especially true of a spouse or significant other. A broken word or promise is never given by a friend, or a spouse. It is given by the one who only partially wishes to travel with you on common ground. My mother firmly believed her husband was also her best friend. Her unwavering faith saw words turn to action. Action in turn moved her deeds with the energy of a loving step forward. Before any of this happened she asked herself where she wanted to go, and with whom she was going to travel down that road with.

“You can tell your best friend anything”. The clarity of that belief should always be given with a full measure of loving compassion. Compassion breathes compatibility. Compatibility breathes familiarity, and familiarity prompts common ground. In that regard, there isn’t a man or woman alive who wouldn’t wish to be compatible with their best friend, spouse or partner. As such, friendships like any relationship should carry a great deal of love and faith – essential ingredients for an enduring place of growth.

If you worry for another’s care in any state, you also need to praise them for stepping out on that love, that faith, even when the growth seems stunted. It is all anyone can bear to watch someone who refuses to move, knowing there is a choice for real growth. If you see growth as fear in someone’s eye, help them dissolve it. Speak words of concern and isolate fear. Stand by their side. This maybe growth for the one who enables a step forward. Take that step, blended with words of encouragement.

“I know this is painful, but we can move through this together”. These are powerful words if rendered in love. Every word in that sentence is an act of faith, a test of endurance and a staple in any relationship. In that sentence is the deed to relinquish control of an outcome. This is the first step among many. It is the unwavering knowledge that any move in kind passes us the necessary energy to follow through with whatever is needed.

If words are lost perhaps your mere presence is enough to move in kind. Are you present as much in sorrow as you are in health or happiness? This too will shine much light on how you define your ability to grow with a common cause. Many start out on this path and end it when the going gets tough. In actuality the going never gets tough, your ability to toughen up through thick and thin is what grows, nothing more. Soon you may find common ground repeatedly opens a new door. Those around you start to share that joy, that leap or act of faith. This is the ability to endure and move forward with a common energy only you can bring forth.